Present Over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic For a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living
BY: SHAUNA NIEQUIST
This book was given to me by one of dear friends, and it could not have come at a better time. Thank you, sweet friend! I really loved this book and all that I have gained from it.
Shauna (I feel like I can call her that, we have been through a lot together) tells the story of her journey to “live a life of meaning and connection instead of pushing for perfection”. In a world, full of filters and perfect posts (I’m guilty of this too), who doesn’t need that?! Being present and in the moment or the season we are in is critical. She writes about her life before her breaking point: writing, traveling, missing her kids, missing her husband, and missing out on life. She was running on empty for so long that she was physically sick. Shauna shares her insight and wisdom as she leaves behind perfection, striving, and proving her worth.
My Biggest Take Aways!
As I went through the book to pull out my favorites parts, I had so many pages tabbed and sections underlined. I managed to I narrow it down to my favorite chapters!
The Word that Changed Everything– Saying NO! It is okay to tell people No. Mind blowing I know. But for some of us, we feel like we always have to say YES, even though deep down we KNOW that NO is what we should be saying. She writes, “Your honesty and freedom is giving them the permission to be honest and free as well” (pg 50). I love that thought! When we allow ourselves to be okay with where we are at, we can show others that is ok to do the same for themselves. ***Disclaimer-I am not talking about people asking you to get help or seek counsel if that is needed. I’m also not talking about sitting on the sideline, when they are encouraging you to step into something YOU know God has called you into. I am talking about adding more to your plate when there is nowhere to put it. Daughter– THIS chapter! Oh my goodness. There is so much gold here. She is writing about the Daughter-ness (or son-ness for all the fellas) that we get to live from. This place is sometimes lost. When we forget who we are and who we belong to, striving can easily creep in to prove ourselves to others. Your Mess Is Mine- In this chapter, she talks about what TRUE friendship looks like. She says, “Friendship sees into us, into our secrets, into our elaborate games and excuses. Friendship carries all this mess together, so that you don’t have to hide, so that you can carry it together”(pg 152). If you let it, right? It is such a beautiful thing when you have that. This kind of journey is not to be traveled alone and I am thankful to have a some of these dear friends, who know it all. Everything. And they LOVE me through all of it. Bring in the Love- Last, but certainly not least. She shares her heart at the end of the journey and how this transformation from needing “to outrun fear and hustling for [her] identity” has truly changed every area of her life.
To buy the book click HERE! And the study guide here! I haven’t read the study guide but I do think it could be helpful if you were wanting a deeper study on this topic! If you do read this book, I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on it!